Quentin Crisp, prophet of doom that he was, claimed that all gay men will go to their graves disappointed. Why? Because we’re chasing an impossible dream – sex with a straight man. It’s impossible because a straight-looking man who has sex with us isn’t really straight. But there’s a way round the conundrum. Put on women’s clothes. This idea is really catching on. Look at the number of clubs and sites that cater for T-girls and their admirers. Paulina is a typical T-girl. In male drag, he’s a major player in the entertainment business. But in female drag he fights off straight guys who want his cock. I spoke to Paulina in his beautiful mews house in central London.

What sort of man is your type?

I love gay men and their company, of course I do, but I’ve decided I don’t find them as physically attractive as straight or bisexual men. I’m sure this isn’t uncommon. In fact a friend of ours wrote a book about a boy who always falls for straight guys. So I’m very much in that bracket. I’ve also found that straight men are attracted to me and my personality whether I’m dressed as Paulina or not. Gay men like my company but don’t find me as physically attractive. So basically it’s working out in everybody’s favour.

Have you always found straight men attractive?

I’ve always found straight men…look, we can say what we like here. Rough trade is what I like really. So if someone’s gay but they’re rough round the edges I find them very attractive. I don’t mean this in any way detrimentally to gay men. But I don’t find people like myself or your buffed, squeaky-clean gay guy physically attractive.

“STRAIGHT MEN LIKE EVERYTHING TO BE VERY FEMININE, BUT THEY WANT THE MEAT AND TWO VEG IN PLACE.”

Tell me about the first time you met a man who knew you were a man in a frock.

Recently I thought to myself I must go to Sweet Wednesdays, which happens at Central Station every first and third Wednesday of the month. People had told me how good it was and that there were a lot of really fabulous guys there. It was true. There were so many people there who wouldn’t leave me alone. They’re very tactile down there. And they were all men I find attractive, all with girlfriends or wives! Previously I’d always thought, well, what are they going to do when they see the front department? It’s not what they’re gonna want. But this is exactly what they wanted. They like everything to be very feminine, but they want the meat and two veg in place.

What are they getting out of sex with a man dressed as a woman?

I’ve thought about it many, many times. I suppose they’re getting sex with a man who isn’t a man. I mean a lot of them love sucking cock. But sometimes I’ve said, “I can see you tonight but I haven’t got time to get dressed.” They’re not interested. They won’t see me as me. They’ll only see Paulina.

But when your clothes are off, what’s the difference?

You tell me. I’ve got make-up on and a wig. But I’m not taking hormones, I haven’t got boobs. I’ve thought, oh, they’re really gay but they’re fighting it. They’re telling themselves it’s a woman but a woman with male genitalia. But one guy said, “I’m not like that. I just think it’s kinky.” A lot of guys say that T-girls are better sex, give better oral plus they can suck your cock as well. So we tick a lot of boxes for them.

Is sex the same with all straight men?

No, all different. Some like being rimmed, possibly because that’s something the wife or the girlfriend doesn’t want to do. It’s a bit gay, that area, isn’t it? A lot of them want to be fucked as well. They say, “Are you versatile?” But they’re all very keen to treat you as a woman. They like you to be shaved including the pubes. I don’t understand this because women have pubic hair.

Tell me how you discovered the website TV Chix?

Well, at Sweet Wednesday you can get ready upstairs. It’s a bit like the backstage dressing room in the film Sweet Charity. So I was getting myself ready and some T-girl said, “Can I borrow your blusher?” and I said, “Of course you can, darling.” We were chatting and I said, “It’s my first time here actually”, and she said, “Are you on TV Chix?” and I said, “No, I’m not.” I couldn’t wait to get home and log on. I put my picture on there. I couldn’t believe the response. I’m talking hundreds and hundreds of people saying, “Wow, you look amazing!  God, you’re stunning!” It was a nightmare. I’d be replying to one message and I’d get another ten.

You’re sounding like you’ve become the kid in the candy shop.

I’m having a fabulous time!

What I’m wondering is how you find the time to have such a fabulous time.

Well, that’s the problem. I’ve got a job and I’m very busy. But there’s no gain without pain. It is hard work shaving your body, doing your make-up – I didn’t realise how expensive make-up is – then you’ve got the frocks. But it’s like gay guys who think that if you don’t go to the gym four times a week there’s no point going out because you look lousy. That’s hard work too.

How long have you been on T-girl sites?

I would say the last six months.

That recently?

Oh yeah. And I’m still getting eight or ten messages a day.

Not many people on gay sites could claim that.

I’ll tell you, the so-called straight world is much more promiscuous than you’d think. Everyone says gay men are so promiscuous. But they’re really picky! Gay men have a type. You don’t automatically fancy every man. But with a lot of [T-girl admirers], because you are dressed, it doesn’t matter what you look like. I had a 21-year-old boy round here not that long ago, I told him I was 50, he couldn’t care less.

Is the sex better than sex with a gay man?

I would say it’s better because the turn-on is that I’m having sex with a straight man. It’s always difficult trying to keep your wig on. I keep thinking, Christ, if me wig comes off, the genie’s really out of the bottle. Sometimes they want to get hold of your head and, when you’ve got a wig on, you’ve got to make sure you haven’t got too many pins in it. You don’t want anyone injured.

Do you think you’ve discovered something in yourself that’ll last for the rest of your life?

Yeah, I think I have. I prefer the social side of it, I prefer the T-girl clubs. Even if you don’t have sex with the guys, they love treating you like a woman. They flirt with you, they buy you a drink. Because they’re used to treating women like that, they treat me like that and that’s very nice. I’m not dissing the gay world, I’m not, but the amount of times we’ve stood in gay bars, looking at guys with faces like slapped arses, daring you to come anywhere near them. That’s not fun. This is.

• www.centralstation.co.uk, www.tvchix.com

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